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If I Can Get Pregnant, Anyone Can

Auto Date Saturday, May 31st, 2008

I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say that! When I ran a support group for my local infertility organization, practically every woman in the group who got pregnant said that very thing.

Infertility chips away at your self esteem and it makes you believe that you’re unworthy of the most basic of human needs. If you’ve been struggling with infertility for over a year (or two or three), you begin to believe that getting pregnant is this impossible dream - it’s soooo way out there that you’ll never achieve it. Well…it may be helpful for you to know that almost everyone in your situation has felt that way.

A couple of weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I was ready to throw in the towel. I told everyone in the support group I was moving on to childfree, and my husband and I started making some real plans for the future. For the past six years our lives revolved around timing intercourse, taking pregnacy tests, having miscarriages (and sometimes surgery to remove them), and spending every waking moment wondering if I had done everything possible to conceive.

And then, just when I had made peace with my decision to move on to childfree, the “impossible” happened - I was pregnant. Why is life like that? Why did I have to get to the point of hopelessness before I suceeded? Well, my theory boils down to this: When you lower your resistance, you make room for success. So what does that mean? When you want something so bad, and it’s not happening, you focus more on what you don’t have instead of what you do have or what you want. You try to force things into place.

When you finally give up, the flood gates open. Your dream starts chasing you instead of the other way around. I’ve had so many people say, “You are so lucky to get pregnant naturally at your age”. Well… I have something to say about that too. I truly believe that you make your own luck. Yes, getting pregnant naturally at the age of 44 with only one tube had an element of luck, but it probably had more to do with preparedness meeting opportunity. I had refined my pregnancy protocol over six years and I think I had fine tuned my body to the point that I had a high liklihood of success give the right conditions.

So when I say “If I can get pregnant, anyone can”, I mean it. Prepare your body, do everything you can to optimize your chances of conception, then get out of the way! Don’t try so hard that you sabotage your success. Things will happen when the time it right.

Copyright © 2006 Sandy Robertson

Sandy Robertson is the author of “You Can Get Pregnant Over 40, Naturally”. She is a stay-at-home mom who also writes and teaches part-time at a local community college. She has volunteered for her local infertility organization as the women’s support group leader and continues to speak to women and couples struggling with infertility and miscarriage.

Tags: Infertility, Fertility, Pregnancy over 40, Fertility over 40, Get Pregnant Over 40, Miscarriage, IVF

Menstrual Calendar Charting the Signs of Fertility

Auto Date Friday, May 30th, 2008

Charting the signs of your menstrual cycle is a good way to keep in touch with your body, your feelings, and your health. It is also a good way to predict your days of menstruation in advance, even if your menstrual cycles are irregular, and to know the most fertile times if you are hoping to conceive.

Cervical Mucus

The sign that is easiest to observe is the cervical mucus, since it is noticed in the course of daily activity. Fertile type mucus is produced by the cervix during the days when the ova are maturing and preparing for ovulation. This mucus is not only an indicator of fertility, it is essential for fertility. Cervical mucus nourishes the sperm, protects them from the natural acidity of the vagina, and guides them toward the ovum. Following is a simple way to observe and chart your fertile type mucus.

Pay attention to how you feel as you go about your daily activities. Just as you have learned to notice a certain wetness at menstruation, you will begin to notice a second wet time, but later in the cycle, and without bleeding. The second wet time is caused by your fertile type mucus.

Each time you go to the bathroom, wipe with toilet paper both before and after you use the toilet, noticing: a) the sensation you feel as you wipe with toilet paper, b) what is on the toilet paper. Chart what you see and what you feel in any way that makes sense to you.

1) Menstruation: mark the days of bleeding in some way, such as coloring the calendar day red.

2) Nothing: if you don’t see or feel anything outside your vagina, you can leave the calendar blank on those days.

3) Something: but if you see or feel something - anything - such as pasty or sticky mucus, or a feeling of wetness - draw something, such as a raindrop, on these days.

4) Slippery something: If the pasty or sticky mucus turns to slippery mucus or a slippery feeling, color the raindrop dark to indicate the slippery wetness.

After a few slippery wet days, the mucus may disappear or return to sticky or pasty. When it does, begin to count the days until menstruation arrives. In a normal fertile cycle, the time between the last day of slippery mucus or slippery feeling and the next menstruation is between 11-16 days. You will become quite accurate about your predictions after you chart for about three cycles.

The mucus is your most fertile time, since fertile type is produced during the days leading up to and including ovulation. If you are trying to conceive, use the wet, slippery days for sexual relations. But don’t try to use this information for birth control unless you seek out a qualified teacher of fertility awareness or natural family planning.

When the fertile mucus is present, we are under the influence of the hormone estrogen. We may feel courageous and loving. Men who bored us last week may suddenly appear interesting and attractive. Like Mother Earth in her rainy season, we are full of potential. We may also be interested in sexual activity. These emotions and reactions are caused by the hormone estrogen, which is getting us ready to have a baby, whether or not we want one! These hormonal swings are a predictable part of our cycle that must be safely navigated by all women in their reproductive years.

After ovulation, under the influence of the hormone progesterone, we may feel somewhat deflated compared to our wet, fertile time. Like Mother Earth in her dry time, we may feel quiet, with less energy. When menstrual bleeding begins, both estrogen and progesterone are at low levels. We may feel sensitive, solitary, or inward. Getting to know the feelings that go along with your hormonal cycle can give you a new and sensitive relationship with yourself.

Dark red menstruation for about three days probably indicates that hormones are high enough to build a good uterine lining and nourish a fetus in the event of conception. However, more than three days of menstruation can be exhausting. If your bleeding is excessive, try drinking raspberry leaf tea on a regular basis.

Three to five days of wet, slippery mucus 11-14 days before the next menstruation is a probable indicator of normal ovulation and a fertile cycle. Cycles are often 28-30 days from the first day of bleeding to the first day of the bleeding of the next menstruation. However, irregular cycles do not indicate infertility. If the time between the last day of slippery mucus and the next menstruation is 11-16 days, the cycle is probably fertile. Even if one cycle is not fertile, the next may well be fertile. Much depends on the stress we may be feeling. Keeping a chart allows us to keep all things in perspective, and feel our own harmony with all the cycles of nature.

Basal Body Temperature

If you are not sure you are ovulating, you can take your temperature. The body’s resting temperature increases four-tenths of a degree Fahrenheit or two-tenths of a degree Centigrade under the influence of progesterone at ovulation. Observing this sign involves taking your temperature at the same time each morning before rising. (This is not as hard as it sounds. It takes less than two minutes and you can go back to sleep if you want.)

To observe your temperature rise, buy a BD brand digital basal thermometer. This brand will give you a consistent and accurate reading. Other high quality brands of digital basal thermometers are also probably accurate, but have not been tested for fertility awareness. Make sure the battery is good. (You can replace it.) An ordinary clinical thermometer is not accurate enough for fertility awareness. Nor is the “ear thermometer” (tympanic thermometer).

Take your temperature every day immediately upon waking, before 7:30 a.m. The body’s rhythms (circadian rhythms) fluctuate over a 24-hour period. Your temperature is lowest in the early morning and highest in the afternoon. Fluctuations are greater after 7:30 a.m. If you go to bed before midnight and wake up before 7:30 a.m., you will get the clearest temperature readings.

If it is not convenient to take your temperature immediately upon waking, you may take it during light morning activity. For example, if you need to go to the bathroom, you may take your temperature while getting up and using the toilet. But be consistent about the circumstances under which you take your temperature. If you take it during light morning activity, take it that way every morning. Don’t take it sometimes before getting up and at other times during light morning activity. If you have sexual relations, take your temperature before.

Many women find that the digital thermometers require such a short time to use that it is easy to take their temperature before getting up. Take your temperature by mouth. Under arm and ear temperatures are not accurate enough for family planning purposes. The thermometer will beep softly several times before beginning to beep slightly louder and repeatedly. Keep the thermometer under your tongue until the louder, repeated beeps begin. You can read and chart your temperature as soon as is convenient after taking it. Your thermometer has a recall button that allows you to read the last temperature taken. Be sure to wash your thermometer after each use.

Your Temperature Graph

Put a dot on a graph on the spot corresponding to each day’s temperature. Join the temperature dots of consecutive days. If you do not take your temperature one day, do not join the dots across that day. Also write out the temperature numerically, to guard against errors in graphing.

Interpreting Your Chart

1) Breathe and relax. Study your chart.

2) Can you find six low temperatures during the fertile mucus days of your cycle? (You can chart your mucus and menstruation on the same graph paper.)

3) Draw a horizontal line at the highest of the six low temperatures. This is your low temperature line.

4) Draw another horizontal line four-tenths of a degree F. or two-tenths of a degree C. above your low temperature line. This is your full thermal shift line.

5) Can you find three high temperatures after the low temperatures? All of the high temperatures must be above the low temperature line. At least the third high temperature must be at or above the full thermal shift line.

6) This temperature pattern of low and high temperatures is called a biphasic pattern with a full thermal shift. A biphasic pattern with a full thermal shift confirms that you really did ovulate. A smaller, but sustained temperature rise also probably indicates ovulation.

If you are hoping to become pregnant, please pay close attention to nutrition. Look for unprocessed foods grown without chemicals. Exercise in moderation. Get plenty of rest. Avoid stress. Think happy thoughts. Pray for the child you desire, and begin sending your child love, now. Heal any hurtful feelings between you and your mate, and between you both and your parents. Your mate should avoid hot shower or baths and tight clothing, both of which lower sperm count.To increase your chances of conception, use the wet, slippery days for sexual relations.

If you have observed a biphasic pattern with a full thermal shift, and it is now 18 days since your last day of slippery, wet mucus, and menstruation has not arrived, you may feel confident that you have conceived.

Congratulations and blessings!

Marie Zenack is the author of an Ebook on how to get pregnant and how to avoid pregnancy with natural birth control. Marie is a teacher of fertility awareness.

Tags: fertility, infertility, having a baby, pregnancy, period, menstrual calendar, menstrual cycle

Increase Your Chances of Getting Pregnant with Fertility Calendars

Auto Date Thursday, May 29th, 2008

Having trouble on getting pregnant? It has been years and you still don’t have your first kid? Well, there is a simple solution for this, the fertility calendars. As you must know, every woman is different, so every woman’s menstrual cycle is also different. Therefore, if you are trying to conceive there will be much more chances of getting pregnant if you have sex during the most fertile days of your cycle.

The fertility calendars predict the days that you are most likely to be fertile so that you can achieve pregnancy. This will show you a range of fertile dates, ovulation, end of menstrual cycle, and possible due dates.

That’s the reason for using fertility calendars. With this you will learn a great variety of ways to help you chart your fertility cycle and how to use the fertility calendars, so you will be able to know when is the best time for having sex with big chances of conceiving.

But that is not all you can get, you can be able to specify a gender preference, so the fertility calendars will provide you with tips to help you time intercourse to maximize your chances of conceiving a boy or a girl. Here is a little explanation: sperm carrying X-chromosomes lives longer and swims slower than male Y-carrying sperm. That means, if you have sex about 3 days prior to ovulation, you have a better chance of conceiving a girl; and if you have sex closer to ovulation you will have more chances are of having a boy, so we could say that it is up to you to decide the sex of your baby.

On the other hand, maybe you are in the opposite situation and you may want to avoid getting pregnant, whether it is because you want to wait before having your next kid or you do not want to have more kids. The fertility calendars may help you with this too. The natural way to avoid unwanted pregnancy is to abstain from unprotected intercourse during your fertile days. The most fertile time is the day of ovulation. Fertility calendars calculate the days in which you can have sex without chances of conceiving, helping you avoid an unwanted pregnancy.

You don’t have to know anything about corpus luteum, progesterone levels, or terms like that, the fertility calendars do all this work for you. All you need to know to begin with this is the length of your menstrual cycle and the date of your last period. Simply enter this little information and the fertility calendars will do the rest!

So, are you convinced you should use the fertility calendars? We assure you will be satisfied with the results.

J Herrera is a freelance writer for health topics.

http://www.fertility-pregnancy.com/fertilitypregnancy/4/fertility-calendar.html

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